You can insult someone without trading insults per se.
On the other hand, contrary to your accusation, no "insults" or "curses" were made on intelligent conversation.
Your response was very inappropriate. You may not realize just how inappropriate, considering our feelings about Ricky and especially what he means to the second generation. It may take time for an outsider and newcomer to understand the rules and social contexts, but you were warned to check the guidelines.
You have fallen short on several points we have outlined:
take the time to define your goals: outline how you plan to conduct your research and how you will use it to form your conclusions
try not to assume too much: sometimes things just aren't the way they appear to be
help ex-members to help you: tell them what you think you know so far (check if it is true!), and what information you think you're still missing, and ask how/where to find the information for yourself
use sensitivity: tread lightly and check if people wish to cooperate; check if they agree you can make a difference with your ideas
know who you are dealing with: Ex-members are damaged, have been burned by people exploiting their story, and are very suspicious by nature. They've seen many a person come along making grandiose claims, trying to set themselves up as the hero of the hour.
factor this: You are dealing with very complex and emotionally-laden topics, and emotionally-scarred people--it is only normal they would want to know you are genuinely concerned about finding out how it really was. If they perceive you to be shallow and uncommitted you will not get far--ex-members will not waste time on out-of-depth researchers who wish to compile over-simplified sound bites.
I have watched the discussions with interest, wondering where they would lead. If you are unable to reach any new findings based on interaction with ex-members here, your particiaption on this board is pointless. You are at risk for becoming the first "researcher" ever to be barred from our discussion forums.