Posted by Perry on December 14, 2005 at 19:57:39
In Reply to: Research on the Relationship between trauma and physical health posted by CB on December 10, 2005 at 11:39:20:
When the Body Says No
Posted by Perry on November 26, 2004 at 15:47:27
I am half way through a fantastic book that I cannot resist recommending to you all, because I think it can benefit everyone, regardless of your particular world view. It is called "When the Body Says No: The cost of hidden stress", Gabor Mate, M.D., Knopf Canada: Toronto, 2003.
If you read only one book in the next year regarding your health, make it this one! I am convinced that if I had read just two books within the first year after leaving TF, Margaret Singer's "Cults In Our Midst" and this book I'm recommending here [but neither book was written yet], I would not have the health issues I'm dealing with now because I would have learned about the importance of cult exit counselling and dealing with the enourmous hidden stresses most of us endured in the cult. In other words, I would not have repressed so much of my cult life all these years.
I think this book could be especially helpful to SGs, because the coping skills we learn during childhood development play a large role in adult health.
Following is a description of the book from the author's website http://www.whenthebodysaysno.ca/index.html You can also read the first chapter of the book at that site:
Can a person literally die of loneliness? Is there a connection between the ability to express emotions and Alzheimer's disease? Is there such a thing as a "cancer personality"? Questions such as these have long surrounded an often controversial debate regarding the connection between the mind and the body in illness and health. As ongoing research is revealing, repressed emotions can frequently lead to stress—which, in turn, can lead to disease.
Provocative and beautifully written, When the Body Says No provides the answers to these and other important questions about the effects of stress on health. In clear, easy-to-follow language, Dr. Gabor Maté lucidly summarizes the latest scientific findings about the role that stress and individual emotional makeup play in an array of diseases, including heart disease, diabetes, irritable bowel syndrome, multiple sclerosis, arthritis, cancer, and ALS, among others.
Offering profound insights into the link between emotions and disease, When the Body Says No explores the highly debated effects of stress on health—particularly of the hidden stresses we all generate from our early programming. Dr. Gabor Maté explains how, when the mindbody connection is not optimal, various illnesses can crop up—everything from heart disease and eczema to irritable bowel syndrome and ALS. He presents the scientific evidence that a connection exists between the mind and the immune system—along with illuminating case studies from his years as a family practitioner that reveal how one’s psychological state before the onset of disease may influence its course and final outcome.
As Dr. Maté wrote in The Globe and Mail: “When we have been prevented from learning how to say no, our bodies may end up saying it for us.” When emotions are repressed, this inhibition disarms the body’s defenses against illness. And, in some people, these defenses go awry, destroying the body rather than protecting it. Despite a rapidly accumulating body of evidence attesting to the mind-body unity, most physicians continue to treat physical symptoms rather than persons. When The Body Says No argues persuasively that we must begin to understand the mindbody link in order to learn more about ourselves and take as active a role as possible in our overall health.
Dr. Maté explains how the dynamics of self-repression operate in all of us. With the help of dozens of moving and enlightening case studies and vignettes drawn from his two decades as a family practitioner, he provides poignant insights into how disease is often the body's way of saying "no" to what the mind cannot or will not acknowledge.
Above all, When the Body Says No promotes learning and healing and helps improve physical and emotional self-awareness—which, Dr. Maté asserts, is at the root of much of the stress that chronically debilitates health and prepares the ground for disease.