In Reply to: This subject is long overdue posted by A husband on March 04, 2003 at 09:40:15:
I'm sure glad you spoke up. I can see that I spoke from my perspective only. In my situation I was married to a man who relished in the whole idea and used it for his own advantage and prided himself in just how many kids he had from several women. I was really under his control from day one and didn't even realize it. Perhaps my eyes are colored because of this experience.
What it sounds like to me is you are the male counterpart of what I went through. I think what Jo has often said is very true, there are victims across the board in that organization, no one was left untouched. If people are bent on being tyrants, they will be tyrants no matter where they are. I've seen men, women and even their offspring turn out to be the most loyal and crack the whip type of people. There are always going to be those that love to get what they want for themselves while being oblivious to the havoc they create in the lives of their very own loved ones and/or friends. This crosses all gender lines.