In Reply to: Re: how refreshing posted by A husband on March 04, 2003 at 22:16:54:
Thank you for your honesty. I apologize if I came across to you as patronizing. I was sincerely wanting to know the answers as I never really got to ask those questions heart-to-heart with any 'brother'. To be honest, I never even dared ponder those questions in my head while I was in as I somehow felt it was taboo to do so. And even while out those questions still rankled in my mind left unanswered. Until now. I salute you for your bravery. There are not many takers in discussing such a sensitive topic. I can only surmise in the absence of other male responses that yours would represent the norm. Would you say that the ffing (and the sharing?), which had devastated you and your family, was in the long-run your 'saving grace' in that it jolted you into bolting? Thank you again, you've actually helped me appreciate what the menfolk go thru, that you were also deeply wounded. We probably share the same pain then.