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my brother asked me the hard questions

Posted by Acheick on November 02, 2005 at 16:33:33

In Reply to: Re: A few thoughts posted by CB on November 02, 2005 at 13:13:14:

when I came back to the states by myself and thought I had to be in TF, it was my brother who challenged me and told me such things as "I read Deborah Davis book and if even 10 percent of what she said is true, we cannot support you in that group," and so on. He didn't mince his words, he didn't sugar coat it, he was honest and forthcoming and it made me think. I didn't leave right away, but it put those seeds in my brain that helped it down the road to come to the realization it needed to come to. I don't think there is any textbook answer as to how to approach someone who is a current member. We all respond according to our experiences and not everyone is going to respond the same, since our experiences are often different. I don't like someone telling me I have to do it this way or that way in order for it to be the correct approach. I didn't notice any exit counselors here, just a bunch of people with the same past.