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"All things" sharing started in 1970

Posted by Oldtimer on September 20, 2006 at 12:55:31

I found the below quotes in the “COG PUBs” section on this site:

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QUESTIONS & ANSWERS ON SEX, FREEDOMS & RELATIONSHIPS! DO 2718 7/91
--Where We've Been, Where We're At, & Where We're Going!

46. QUESTION: There were adults in the Family who went without sex for years?

47. ANSWER: Yes, a lot of us went literally for years without any sex whatsoever.

48. It would probably help you to view some of our past liberties in the right context if we talk a little bit about the way things were in the Family throughout the first years of our existence as a group. For our first eight or nine years, there was very little if any sexual sharing within our Homes, except for those who were married; who naturally slept with their own husbands & wives. So the only hope that most of our early disciples had of ever having sex with anyone was to get married.--And a lot of folks simply couldn't find a suitable mate, so remained single & virtually without any sex from the time that they joined until the Lord provided them with a husband or wife--which sometimes took 5, 6 or more years! One reason that it was difficult for many of our men to find mates was because during our first "rough & rugged" years, we had only half as many women join us as men! So it was pretty "slim pickin's" for the guys!

49. Nevertheless, these early Family Members faithfully "shtuck" for the Lord & for the sake of lost souls, the reasons they'd joined the Family in the first place. So for years & years a lot of us simply put our sexual needs "on the altar," & did our best to "deny ourselves & take up the cross daily" & go about our Father's business of preaching the Gospel to every creature. In fact, for years most of our Homes worldwide had their fair share of folks who were virtually "eunuchs for the Kingdom of Heaven's sake." (Mat.19:12.)--People who had joined the Family in their late teens & had passed into their mid-twenties--or even late-twenties--without having any sexual relationships whatsoever!

50. QUESTION: You mean there was no sharing sexually between anyone except husbands & wives for all those years?

51. ANSWER: That's right, there was no sharing, except in just a few rare cases by just a few leaders.

52. Actually, it was way back in 1970 when Grandpa first received that revelation that "All things are lawful" unto us included sexual sharing, if it's done in real love. It was at the old TSC Ranch that the married couple that we mentioned earlier had to temporarily separate because the husband was needed on a mission on the road while his wife needed to stay back at the Ranch. But the Lord made it clear to Grandpa that this brother's sexual needs could be met by one of the sisters who was going with him on the road team. So it was in our very early years, 1970, that the Lord showed Grandpa that such liberties were perfectly permissible under God's Law of Love.

53. However, because Grandpa knew the potential dangers & bad fruit that could result if this new liberty were abused or used unwisely or unlovingly, no Letters were published about it at that time. In fact, the knowledge that such freedoms even existed was limited to only the few leaders with whom Grandpa shared this "All Things" revelation at TSC in 1970. In the years that followed, these same leaders carried this knowledge with them, & some practiced such liberties among themselves. But the average Family Member knew very little or nothing about it, & as already mentioned, went without any sexual fellowship whatsoever unless they were married.

54. QUESTION: Then when did the Family as a whole learn about "All Things" & sexual freedom under God's Law of Love?

55. ANSWER: It was in 1974, four years after Grandpa had first received the revelation about "All Things" that the Lord led him to share the news of this liberty in the Lord with the Family.

56. By 1974 the Lord had begun to show Grandpa & Mama that meeting others' needs for love, romance & sex could even be used as a tool to reach & witness to & win outsiders to the Lord. It was at that time that they were frequenting ballrooms in England for exercise & recreation, & consequently met a lot of lonely & spiritually hungry people whom they were able to minister to & eventually FF. The general principles & ideas behind this radical new outreach approach were then published for the first time in Letters such as "The Look of Love," "Beauty & the Beasts" & of course, "The Flirty Little Fishy." (ML#s 304, 309, 293.)

57. Knowing also that there was an ever-increasing need in most of our Homes, & trusting that the Family had matured & grown considerably more responsible since he had first received the "All Things" revelations back in 1970, Grandpa decided to publish the "All Things Tree" & the "Law of Love" Letters at this time as well (early 1974). By doing so, the Lord was mercifully giving the Family His Word to show us that the rather pressing--& in some cases, dire--sexual needs of the many faithful Family Members who had gone without sex for years & years now, could indeed be met.