"Of course" TF-adults acted in "love"...although...thank God...I never personally participated in any sexual abuse (nor did I see any...for those who continously seek to know that)...still I gave it a theoretical thought/chance, that whatever "grandpa" (and his household )did...and I didn`t know 100% what it was...that it could have been "love"...in that I didn't want to judge or was too naive & blinded...too bad of me...& that was part of my sick past...too bad...and my deep sympathy for any who did suffer at the hand of any of the sick adults or who else, either in TF or out...
it takes time to get the mind & soul & heart cleaned up of all that filth...
I still believe that sex is super beautiful within it's good boundaries...(in that I am totally on the gospel-side....)