"No church needed Pastor Don, church and leaders are for the weak who can't make decisions for themselves and think for their own."
I agree with Pastor Don about the importance of finding a church, and I would urge you to be open-minded about what that might mean for you. It might take some time to find your fit, but it helps to realize there are many, many different ways of being "church" within the universe of Christian communion and fellowship.
A healthy church and its leaders don't make decisions for its members; the members of a healthy church support each other as they go about making decisions for themselves.
I'm glad Pastor Don has taken on the specific topic of servant leadership--I won't go there in my comments. More generally what I have to say about finding a church fellowship is this: Authentic Christianity that follows both Gospel and Pauline teaching cannot be practiced in isolation, individualistically as a "me and my God" kind of religion. A Christian church is the Body of Christ on earth--if you are not joined with members of that Body in your worship, you are essentially cut off from the incarnation of Christ. Being cut off from the Body doesn't mean you aren't Christian, but it does put you in a weakened spiritual state, which is just exactly the opposite of what you assume is true.
One of the big mistakes made by COG/TF is that they cut themselves off from full Christian communion and went their own way. Linda Berg (aka, Deborah Davis) talked about this in her book back in the 1980s: her father got it wrong from the very beginning when he rebelled against church as an institution and rejected the fellowship and communion of other Christians. If you grew up in COG/TF, you've never really had an experience of the full Christian communion or exposure to the diversity that resides in the Body of Christ.
Just keep an open mind, OK? You're embarked on an incredible journey where you truly don't know what you don't know.