In Reply to: difficulties in attitudes toward "THE FAMILY".. posted by ray on September 07, 2003 at 19:34:12:
Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post, this is an issue of course which is dear to my heart. I love my daughter, even admire her for her work in Africa and her dedication to helping others, but wish she were not in the Family. Which all can seem so contradictory.
There was much good advice offered, thank you again... I will continue to let her know how our lives are going here, I think she knows I will always do my best to help her (but will make SURE she knows this) if she would like to come home, etc.
When she first arrived in Africa, she and her little family only stayed about a month and a half in the Home where they landed- and left suddenly for a different Home in a nearby African country, MINUS all their landing funds they had worked for years to accumulate (their "ministries were not compatible, blah, blah...). This is the kind of Family stuff that bothers and worries me so. I did not offer to help her monetarily at this point- though the mother in me wanted to- 'cause to be honest, she was disillusioned and somewhat disheartened by this landing Home's unloving actions and I did not want to make it too easy for her to forgive. These kinds of situations really tear at a mom's heart- she's halfway around the world in a difficult foreign country and I do not want anything disastrous to happen to her, but I also do not want to make it easy for her not to face what unfortunately can be reality in the Family. Making any sense here? Do you think I should have helped (I do have some savings)? As it turned out, she and her Family have now been in another Home for some time and she, husband and kids seem happy there, and at least physically okay.
Do others with kids in the Family send money to them? I know they would like to purchase a vehicle, for instance, and it would make their lives easier and safer... but....
??? Laura