Below I mentioned how being in the Family cut us off so much from our families and relatives, that going to their funerals or to visit them when they were sick and dying, even if it was our own parents, was not important in the Family way of thinking and doing things.
I've never visited my father's grave, lots of people visit the grave of a loved one to make amends.
My dad's grave is in Kansas as he was buried next to my parent's first son at the cemetary at Ft. Leavenworth. He had died from cystic fibrosis when I was six when we lived there.
Since I have a brother who lives in Leavenworth I've decided to ask him for a photo of where my dad's buried and I will use the photo for making amends to my dad, there’s a whole list of things. There really is something simple and basic about that kind of process that makes living better.
I really would like to be able to visit his grave in actuality, I'll have to try to the next time I'm in the States. In many books and movies the grave site scene is often featured. And I’ve heard a number of people talk of how much good it did them. Of course, doing this is not for my dad, it’s for me. Isn't it true that when we ask people for forgiveness we do it to do good to ourselves?
That verse "let the dead bury the dead", was used by Berg in a major way in the forsake all doctrine. But what did Jesus really mean? I bet people like Kathy, George, Ed, Lydia, etc might have some input on this.