In Reply to: Even frogs have more sense posted by Jules on November 19, 2003 at 05:33:17:
Well, honestly speaking, I think the analogy is a good one though not technically correct. I understand it because i relate to it having been a FGA. Perhaps a more apt description is compartmentalization along with Stockholm Syndrome type factors. I joined willingly, but without any inkling of what the family would become and already had been behind the scenes. For FGA's it is a fact that the atmosphere was coercive and controlled. It is also a fact that the candy coating of the family for FGA who joined, many of us as teens, virtually all as young adults with few over their mid twenties age wise. Not all FGA left their kids behind. Many did not choose to, but were separated prior to leaving. there are so many different dynamics to keep us IN. The family also was not into all the sex stuff at the GP level for many when they joined. And there were very few children. Mostly just a few babies. I don't know why so many FGA are so hard on themselves. Or why there is such disregard with generalization of FGAs not having as much sense as a frog, basically. Most of us were idealistic and searching for a purpose in life in the midst of the height of the VietNam war. I think it is tragic that there is so little respect between exers of different generations when it comes to recovery after the fact. But then respect is a two way street and I truly believe we all deserve it. Not every FGA owes a collective second generation amends. Many of us were helpful to others, at great cost to ourselves. Many who hurt others hate themselves for what they did while in the group and abhored what they did while in. Some may have gotten off to the great harm that was done. So take them to court. Maybe mercy comes with age. One of the hardest things for some FGA's to forgive is themselves. But we are worth that. Not to mention that great harm happened to many of us where we were in situations quite powerless as well.