Jo, thanks for your thoughtful response to the issues I raised. (I've been really slammed at work this week and couldn't get back to the board until today.)
I'm not so sure we're in disagreement, only trying to find greater clarity on the question of neurotic guilt versus personal responsibility. Actually, I am also a chemical dependency counselor (CCDC-III), although I have not been in direct practice for some time.
You're right--this medium is hard to use for more indepth discussions--but I appreciate your effort and really enjoy reading your posts.