In Reply to: Re: Reclaiming individuality is a process posted by susie on January 03, 2004 at 15:34:11:
I think it takes some real (life) long training, interacting with people, wisdom, faith, love, you name it....to be able to take the faults characteristics, shortcomings & offences of others
not as a welcome invitation, to pay that person in
double or more measure home...the chance is, we "pack in" or vent some of the frustrations which actually has little to do with that person itself.
The restraint we had to exercise in TF was in my eyes not a bad training, but since we had little or no chance to voice our doubts & outright criticism
as "the unity" of yessayers had to be preserved,
I guess it`s not fair, to throw out the idea of
being kind, gentle & courteous just because of it..
Why can`t one have a goal of being open, even blunt
& on top of it being not too offending, rather having the goal, to help the other, instead of
tearing him down, ridiculing him,...I am not saying, that I succeed in always doing that, but that`s my goal....