In Reply to: Re: PS posted by non_christian on January 03, 2004 at 10:41:16:
I think that spouting out the things that hurt are very very helpful regardless of how it comes out. I hope you continue to speak up. At the same time I realize that even after some time of being out and in "recovery" from that abyss, aka the family, we all have a very sensitive side. I think that it is great then that we all state what hurts and then maybe we can get down to brass tacks about the root of the pain instead of so much reaction to it that comes out aimed at each other at times. But reactions DO come first and DO pop up from time to time. Support is not about saying it all "right" but about feeling safe to say whatever we need to even when it comes out "sideways" or if it is not how everyone else thinks. I do not doubt at all that many of us have some serious and chronic PTSD as a result of the spiritual, emotional and physical wringer that we have been through.