In Reply to: Re: Cognitive Dissonance, a definition (take 2) posted by Kinda Gentler on November 18, 2004 at 02:08:39:
Thank you for responding Kinda Gentler. I see that I've triggered a defensive response from you. Could it be that you found some truth to what you are interpreting as a hasty generalization of everyone else's experience different from mine as being in denial? Whatever your reason and your trigger, I am sorry you interpreted it that way. Perhaps I wasn't very clear. What I meant was that my cognitive dissonance manifested itself in the side-effect of processing the experience as being a victim. That's how I resolved the dissonance. That is my validation of the theory. But I didn't stay there (mindset). I chose to move away from that construct. You too have validated it in your choice to lose some trust in formerly trustworthy people (and perhaps in all others as a rule?). That is your journey and I respect where you're at. I am merely saying that I've been there. I don't know you and I didn't write the post with anyone in particular in mind. As I said I don't intend for anyone to feel judged but helped.
My question to you now is this: Is it working for you? are you reaching your full potential from it? I ask this of myself every now and then so I know I am not plateauing or worst, atrophying. And that in a nutshell is my personal strategy for recovery.