Posted By: Anneke
Date: Tuesday, 1 March 2005, at 2:52 p.m.
In Response To: Concerning Mene (repost from ex.family board) (lydia)
Hi, I just got back from Italy and recovering from jet lag. Merry's (Mene) mom and her brother are in contact with her and though she is not doing well they do know where she is and can get ahold of her if needed. Though generous, a donation to her at this time I believe would be counter productive as it may hurt her more than anything else giving her money and access to things she shouldn't have access to.
Merry has had medical help and she knows she can have the support of her mom and brother anytime she makes that decision. The BEST support anyone can give to Merry right now is to pray for her for emotional, mental and spiritual healing. Once that prayer is answered then we can best know how to help her. This would be a wonderful commitment to keep Merry in a daily prayer. She is a mess because of all the happened to her and the way Rick took action quickly Merry is being just as self destructive slowly. There are many of us here in San Diego that have been with her in the hospitals, have paid for hotels and food for her but she is in her own world and has her own way of coping with what her grandfather did to her.
Merry has sat in my kitchen so many times I cannot count and has talked to me til dawn, literally, about her abuse. Each time we would talk she would tell me yet another story of horror.
Once she was at my house a couple of years ago when a couple of my F friends showed up. The F friends were very upset and said they didn't want to "get into anything" with Merry. I said she doesn't want to get into anything with you either. They had never met Merry before and had all these preconceived notions about her from "The Last State" and the general garbage and lies the F had told them and these people were semi up there in leadership.
It was awkward at first and we had our dinner and then before I was even aware Merry and the F friends of mine were on the porch talking for HOURS while Merry told them her story. When they left here they said that Merry was nothing like what had been told to them and that she was very NICE.
The slightest thing, though, could set Merry off. Something like being on the beach and when she saw an old man with a young girl in the bar she had flashbacks of Berg raping her and it caused her to get very upset and end up once again in a hospital. Merry calls me every couple of months and asks if we can "hang out". I usually tell her no because it has been very hard having a relationship with her but I told her mom the next time she calls that I will meet with her and I will also let her know there are people out there that care about her and are praying for her.