In Reply to: ok, give yourself a break posted by sophie on March 23, 2005 at 09:15:10:
Interesting way of equating love with good times, also of mixing bad experiences with lack of love. We only have a (small) part of the elephant so are trying to piece it together relaying on each other's stories. The problem is that even when we use the same words, we confuse meanings.
For example we often regret the double standard of the cult "loving us". We talk about "love bombing" and at the same time can see the contradictory reaction to what we know to be LOVE. We know what love means, unconditional and absolute, God's love, yet we use it in actions we know were hypocritical.
The cult doesn't love us or even its members, they use, they manipulate, they go through actions to make us think they love us. We know that yet we use the word love. Those "friends" who supposedly love us don't know better, they think they are doing the right thing. When we discover the real meaning of their actions then we realize how wrong they are, not before.
Now that we know how deceiving those teachings are, that even though they know what love is: unconditional and absolute, they withhold it and only behave a certain way that resembles it in order to pretend that they have love.
If you have one or two words that can describe that hypocritical behavior, I would like to know it. But the word is not love. Is it love bombing, playing the con, acting? I don't know but remember us before leaving, we didn't know it. At least I didn't but I wonder how truethful I am being with myself. There were an abundance of jerks and jerkettes and I also know I didn't care much about them. How can I be convinced to this day that I used to love them?
Have you met a Christian lately that who tells you "I love you" but go to hell?