Ok I promised to get back to this board ( six months ago ! ) after I was in a situation where I thought I was being groomed for the family.
To recap : I met a woman ( or she met me ) who I began seeing over the Christmas period. I ended up with feelings for her, until one day she told me that despite thinking I was the sort of guy she'd like to marry, and that she felt she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me, she couldn't as I didn't prey. For various resons I was suspicious and came to this board to ask advice. The advice was to be careful.
Since my last post. Ultimatly I think this woman is part of the International Church of Christ ( The Boston Movement ). And reading about their techniques and beliefs it really does seem to fit in.
Why ? Well on talking with her way back, the only way I could carry on seeing her was to be part of her church only, not any other church or denomination. ( I declined an invitation to visit )
Her Church is actually a house where people meet and discuss the Bible over a meal ( nothing wrong with that I know, but fits in with ICOC.
She's convinced that her brand of Christianity is the only true one and is utterly dismissive of all other beliefs.
As an evangilist she hasn't tryed to tell me about the 'Good News' in any way. Something that some Christian friends told me is quite odd. And I assume that her 'remit' was to get me to a meeting where others would work on me.
She lives with people from her Church, there seems to be quite a turn over of people.
Her emphasis seems to be on loving God, Jesus doesn't get mentioned that much ( I saw a postit note that said ' Lord God let me love you as I loved my first love )
There is more but I'll stop there.
My feelings about it all are very mixed. To be befriended, indeed seduced, and to become suspicious it's all false is a real head-messer-upper. To realize that somebody is actually more interested in recruiting you than you yourself. Deception at it's worst. And alot of un-neccissary pain on my part. Not hers.
The worst part is that I see her everyday at work. And despite being very suspicious, decided that the best course in life is to love and forgive, so that is what I did. However I think this woman is doing the same thing to others at work which is desturbing me.
I may confront her about it, I don't know.
On the plus side, it has made me consider my beliefs much more, and I've learned a huge amount about the whole gamut of Christian thinking.
I'm not a Christian. Well actually some Christians have told me I am. If so I'm certainly on the Liberal side of things. I may possibly go find a Unitarian Church to visit.
thanks for listening
peace love and understanding
Greg