Ok
Well, there's sort of closure on this chapter of my life.
To remind anyone following this. I did ask this woman what her Church was called, she gave me a fairly mundane answer , Municiple Chrurch of something or other, non-denominational. It was a different answer to the one I got a few months ago.
I remember back then she told me hers was a small church, but then called it 'The International Church of' something. But I remember thinking why would a small church be called International ?
I asked her last week if she'd heard of the International Church of Christ. Long pauses, and a 'no'. Long pause and then 'er...maybe I've heard of them, why are you asking?"
I then sent an email saying that I needed her help, because a friend of mine I feared was involved with the ICOC, and I'd really apreciate her advice, if she could just read an article I'd found ( rightcyberup.org ) and give me her opinion I'd be very greatful.
Basically I thought if she was ICOC there would be no way on earth she'd be able to either have a discussion or read the article. ICOC are taught very early on that coming into contact with criticism in any amount, shape or form is the road to damnation.
Friends had warned me to walk away, as it would be possible that she'd turn on me and start accusing me of all kinds of stuff. My boss too. But I've hopefully got myself covered in that respect. I've kept all my emails etc.
So...... come Thursday, I ask her if she'd like to go for a cigarette. Too busy came the reply, HECTIC. So I emailed her saying that I understood, I was busy too, but maybe we could meet after work on evening.
The reply was very odd. Started off "NO WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" full of upper case words, she said she was working ' LATE LATE LATE LATE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ALL WEEK !! ' very emphatic that we weren't going to meet up. Almost hysterical, very out of charactor. Though oddly ( again ) it ended with ' but thanks for asking, very sweet of you :-)
So I looked at this odd email, and thought if I push this at all it could very easily become harasment. I was scared even to risk being alone with her after that. But it sort of confirmed things for me. I could have gotten involved with her church to find out I guess, but I don't think I'd have wanted gone to go through that.
So I wrote an email basically saying that I hoped I been a good friend ( which I think I have been ) , that I'd certainly tried to cheer her up when she'd been sad, but that she shouldn't contact me again.