In Reply to: To: The world's authority on all things family posted by another point of view on March 21, 2006 at 20:21:22:
"No doubt I'm helping you in your recovery from the traumatic experience of actually being in the family for what, 4 years? You've had almost 30 yeasrs now to recover. If it's still a problem for you, I can only recommend zanax, or something for your high blood pressure. It's helped a whole lot of other folks who have left the family. It's on the NDN site."
You're not a qualified medical professional to be handing out such advice are you? In any case we do we allow our board users to act in the such a capacity and hand out such advice as yours.
Your comment serves no other purpose than to belittle someone who might not have recovered from 4 years in the COG 30 years ago. There are many reasons one might be affected to this day by events 3 decades ago. Even more so when they are due to 4 years in a cult. Those 4 years can have devastating and long-lasting effects on a person's life. Many of us are lucky to be alive, sane and functioning. There is no template for "100% recovery" from a cultic experience - we each deal with trauma in our own way.
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