I hope someone may be able to provide me some assistance. Let me explain:
My two youngest children (boys) are ages 13 and 11. When we left the family, I was divorced, and they were 6 and 4, and so they don't remember much at all about the Family. They were both a "result" of sharing within the Family, and so do not have the same father as each other, or the same father as their older brother and sisters. My ex-husband has not seen them in 6 years and is a complete NON factor in their lives and does not want to be their "father" in any way (although of course at the time they were born, that was not the case, because of the Family doctrine of "real fathers" not being determined by biology, etc.).
My new husband is doing a great job of stepfathering, but of course, since we have only been married less than a year, the boys know he is not their "real" father. They are starting to ask questions about their father. They have just always assumed it is my ex-husband, although they do not remember him at all. I do not want to lie and tell them that is the case....esp. since my ex-husband wants nothing to do with them, but, I do not even know the "real" name of either of their fathers! Only "Bible" names.
I would like to be able to contact their biological fathers to discuss this. I do NOT want money from either of them. I do NOT want love or romance from either of them (obviously, since I remarried last year). I just want to talk to them about how to handle this.
I thought perhaps if I described what I know about each of them here, someone might know something? Or perhaps I might get really lucky and one or both of them may read this?
Father #1- American, Bible name James. Was in Guadalajara, Mexico in app. 1991, where he spent a few days in jail after being picked up busking with some teen girls. Later worked at NACRO in Monterrey (1992), then went to Mama and Peter's Home. I vaguely remember his first legal name may have been Thomas.
Father #2- Canadian, Bible name James. Was in Dallas, Texas in 1994. Took a lot of road trips and was very good at selling videos to Vietnamese, Laotians, etc. Had some children- I remember a (then) YA named Phil and (then) Jett son (Johnny???). Tall, charismatic. Many years previously was on a Family video talking about a failed attempt by Ted Patrick to deprogram him. May have "gotten together" with or married a sister named Rachel in Toronto in 1995. First legal name may be Michael, birthday November 5th.
Thank you very much if anyone has any info or suggestions. My e-mail address is: lauraff7@aol.com.
Laura