In Reply to: You are too sensitive and suspicious posted by Swede on September 05, 2006 at 06:29:48:
Swede:
I think that you regard your own opinion very highly, and that you were not really inquiring about mine. I didn’t call you a swine; you’re being a little excitable, here.
By the way, the “clay horse” thing probably sounds better in Swedish; I wouldn’t use it again in English. Something that sounds that contrived and odd loses its force of expression, if that is what you were intending. Your tone is insulting; so how could I possibly interpret that as friendly or respectful, simply because you insist I should be jovial and superficial, as you evidently are? You cannot have it both ways. I’m learning to pick my battles. I’m not interested in battling you, and you probably don’t want to know the reasons, as they would probably offend you; sorry.
What exactly are you trying to accomplish here? By the way, I do have Swedish friends, and you do not represent them well. They are respectful and cultured, and don’t come across like an annoying drunk in a bar; like yourself.
If that were the setting you and I were in, you would not come out favorably, using the same conversation; I assure you. You’re simply rude. If that rudeness continued, I would probably invite you outside to discuss it, as would any self-respecting 53-year-old man forced to tolerate your unsociable behavior; don’t you think?
Here, online, I can make suggestions as to how I might be persuaded to receive you in a friendly manner. You are definitely not getting it; so my natural reaction is to give you one more chance to either behave as a grown man, or to further confirm my growing opinion about you. That’s how it works; Swede. “He that has friends must show himself friendly”. You’re not doing that, you are behaving rudely by any social measure; if you didn’t know.
How long have you been out of TF, and why do you assume that the way you attempt to communicate with me shows any social skills or public grace? It doesn’t.
Why should I assume that you are, as you claim, “friendly-helpful-critical”? You merely come across, to me, as critical. I see “messing” as playing a game for your own interests, and agenda, not a polite or respectful inquiry about me; personally. Are you just out to amuse or impress other readers and posters, here?
If I see your monologue as such, why would I want to respond? Merely because you are a TFI exer? This is the real world, I have been out over 32 years, and I pick my own friends; Swede, and you’re not even close to getting on the list, at this point.
The fact that I do not require your opinion, when I see you, yes, as insincere, as well as quite immature, and not quite worth dealing with, does not put me into the categories in which you desire to place me, as a matter of plain fact.
I think I understand your intent very well; after all, you are confirming what I already suspected. There is nothing about this board that requires me to consider you as a potential friend. If I don’t really like the personality you have shown, why would your opinion matter to me?
Your use of “shit” only shows me your language limitations, as profanity is the attempt of a weak mind to express itself more forcibly, rather than learning more descriptive terms.
If you want a more colloquial saying; here’s one, Swede: “You cannot polish a turd”. To explain that, I’ll just say, again, your “friendliness” seems quite phony, no matter how many words you add to the insults. Is that making sense?
Here’s a hint: if your argument is that you are supposedly sincere and friendly, you probably shouldn’t use schoolyard expressions of insult. Surely you don’t think that I am intimidated by your mere lack of class; do you?
Perhaps you should increase your vocabulary? And, whether or not you are sincere doesn’t concern or even interest me, at this point, since I find you rather childish, and mostly just annoying.
Perhaps it is the language barrier; I suspect that it is not, but that there really has been nothing lost in translation from your end; I just think you’re behaving like a jerk; not a potential friend. Avoiding interaction with jerks is one way I have learned to keep my blood pressure in a healthy range. I thank you for the reminder; self-control is a good thing; good luck in your efforts to that end, as well.
Perhaps I would consider a real conversation with you; should you consider apologizing.
Otherwise, I will continue, I am sure, to find this exchange worthless, unless you actually begin to act like a man, instead of a petulant child.
Is “petulant” a new word for you, too? If so, I’m glad I could help with your rapidly growing international vocabulary. After all, you said, months ago, “I am Swedish; I am not stupid!”.
Well, Swede, as Forrest Gump said, “Stupid is as stupid does!”.
There! How’s that for a little humor? You’re right! I feel better already!
Sincerely,
OT2