In Reply to: looking for a sister posted by Ish Selah on September 15, 2006 at 21:39:55:
What exactly is wrong with "systemite" women? There are lots of awesome ones out there. I'm together with one and she's the best thing that ever happened to me.
Do you think it's wrong to be a systemite? What exactly about them turns you off? What standards are you judging them by? What's with the label systemite?
We are all in the system and part of the system, dude, don't forget that. Saying you are not part of it is just a way to avoid collective responsibility for your world around you.
Even if we are un-worldy and different, there is a place for us. There are also women out there who are also unworldy and different, and they are still systemites.
Even if un-systemite means a subservient barefoot baby-making machine; a home-schooling, dishwashing, non-complaining, yielded bible believer who never witholds sex from you; who swallows and doesn't spit, who keeps her hair long and believes in being sexy for you, who believes you are master of the house and doesn't question your authority, who is loyal and believes in unity in the face of adversity -- you've got plenty of systemite women out there who fit the bill and would be happy to hook up with you.
On the other hand, this is probably more about you. If you're having a hard time relating to a woman about your past in the group, then maybe you need to get help detoxing.
We are all special in our own way, and we are all different, and "out there" in the system, there are plenty of good matches, women who are understanding enough to accomodate our wierdness. But if you still consider yourself part of that special elite 110% committed dropout Christian shock-trooper breed that knows something all other Christians don't, well then of course you have trouble getting people to understand you. But even then, there are some crazies out there in the system who would love to have their personal guru and prophet, who will pray together in tongues before they walk into a bathroom so angels will prevent you slipping and falling and killing yourself before you work for Jesus is done.
Just remember though, if you're looking for a woman who won't try to change you, they don't exist.
So what happens from the "systemite" woman's perspective? What is the deal-breaker? What do they not like or are unable to understand about you?