Posted by CB on February 12, 2012 at 08:49:26
In Reply to: Re: Self-righteous Anger? posted by IFT on February 11, 2012 at 20:29:51:
I woke this morning with a moment of mental clarity--about what's going on with me, at least--and I need to say this before moving on. I have had unrealistic expectations of you. Those unrealistic expectations were born of my own grief and anger. My apology. Believe it or not, it was not my intent to ridicule your pain. But I also accept that despite my lack of conscious intention, I have done exactly what you accuse of me of. For that I am sorry. You can choose to forgive this wrong I have done you or not. That I cannot control.
I really wish I were the cold-hearted bitch and self-righteous hypocrite that you perceive. It would make it so much easier to dismiss what you have to say. It is true that you don't get me and that I don't get you. Perhaps at some point, if we simply listen to each other--without reacting and making assumptions--we will start to get where the other person is coming from.