Posted by ray on September 19, 2012 at 01:21:49
geez, xtreme, you don't mess around w/ small talk much do you. loved your ?'s... #1, finding spiritual balance after life in totalistic group can be challenging, i agree. personally, i find the whole "in the world but not of it" is the sticker. jesus became flesh and dwelt amongst us. it seems to be our challenge to live it out in flesh as well. #2,regrets. my guess is most humans of a certain age carry them along... excult maybe a few more than average. many commentators liken it to the grieving process of losing a loved one. i agree. anger is part of it, but camping there doesn't seem to help anyone much. imo, taking personal responsibility is also important, as long as the dynamics of thought reform and social psychology are factored in, and, imo, grace. love others as we love (and forgive) ourselves. #3, was in a loving 3some for over 10 yrs... have 17 kids (11 + 6) and we all still feel like family, and love each other. but it did cause a lot of pain and loss as the arrangement broke up (upon my leaving tf w/ wife # 1 and #2 stayed w/ our 6 shared kids... tho 4 have since left). still happily, joyously married to #1 after 41 plus years. upon reflection, feel polygamy is not condemned in scripture, and love can prevail, but it creates way more complications than most of us can handle, and some (esp. kids) end up shortchanged. gen., 1 &2 kings seem to agree... have found that to "drink water from your own cistern and running water from your own well" eventually ends up feeding into an incredibly rich exp. of love. my opinions.
hope you find the answers to the questions you wrestle w/... peace. ray