Posted by Acheick on March 18, 2004 at 19:12:55
In Reply to: Re: Reconciliation - pros & cons posted by Jules on March 18, 2004 at 18:31:48:
I think that's fine. It would be interesting to hear what other SGs have to say.
I hope that you don't think I was in my postings to Albatross suggesting something without the best interest of the victim. I was thinking about the victim, I thought maybe they could get closure if they were not able to procecute or bring the person to justice, at least they could bite their head off and let them know just how much damage was done to their lives because of this person's actions. That maybe if the abuser didn't sleep so well at night because of their words might be some sort of comfort to the victim. I thought it might help, but if it's going to make things worse, then that's the last thing I would suggest, of course. I guess I was thinking about how people are able to come to court, face the person who commited some sort of crime to either them or a member of their family and tell them just how much it hurt them and how much it ruined their lives, etc., etc. I guess that's what I was thinking of. I do remember now you talking about how trying to confront someone that had abused you only made things worse. Do you have that written anywhere that you could repost it for us? I think it's another perspective we should keep in mind.