Posted by Thinker on January 31, 2011 at 01:50:44
In Reply to: Re: Need more specifics posted by alexander on January 30, 2011 at 09:21:18:
Just a quick first response, hopefully I will find time to get back to this later. Again I will be direct, but I only mean to help.
What I can't help wondering is, why on earth would you want to check her computer? The fact that you considered it to be necessary raises a few red flags.And what's porn got to do with anything? It would seem to me you are trying to make her into something she is not, or at least that you want to mold her into something other than what she is ready to be, into what you think she should be just so you can have a "proper functioning relationship" on your terms, and that is the last thing she needs. What about to personal choices and freedoms? There seems to be a need to fix her up on your part and a lack if respect for who she is, where she's at, and therefore it is not a relationship of mutual respect or one on equal terms. Here you have a great opportunity to help her, but you seem to be putting your own agenda for having a girlfriend first. There are lots of ways to be close and to connect, but unless she has explicitly expressed interest in going the same direction, your girlfriend program is probably getting in the way.
These are my thoughts for now. I promise to get back to you on this when I have time.
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