In Reply to: Re: Is that quote from movingon/research known to you,PB? posted by Perry on April 17, 2008 at 18:51:43:
I have been following your discussion with great interest. First thankyou for taking a tough stand against corporal punishment. I agree it does not help a child whether it is psychopathic or not. I learned it the hard way. I know because I have a son who could not bond and showed sociopathic tendencies in early life. This was thanks to the family interfering in his and his motherīs life. Without invading their privacy and going into all the bad things that happened, he was born damaged and all the phsicial punishment the Family taught me to give did not help. Corporal punishment goes hand in hand with religion and only when I left religion behind I started to deal with things better. All the stigma and condemnation I carried and heaped on him came from what religion taught me and only made things worse. It did not help him or equip me to help him. Only when I approached the problem from a non-religious non-stigmatizing attitude did the downward spiral stop. But not before he almost killed a very old lady by pushing her down the stairs. I got him institutionalized when I finally realized that all the discipline, raw willpower, prayer, love and scripture in the world were powerless to improve his life. If I only knew the things I know now, I would have handled it different and he might never have turned out this way. Now he seems a working functioning adult, but pry deeper and there is a can of worms in there. I have enough material to take the Family to court.