In Reply to: Re: Does divorce equal adultery? posted by OT2 on February 04, 2010 at 14:44:44:
Pastor Don:
I don't know if I mentioned it, but BOTH my exes cheated on me. My first cheated on me FIRST, then I cheated on her (a LOT; out of bitterness and unforgiveness, I had a 3-4 year backslidden period in my life), then she left me, and "dicscovered" she was an atheist. Her family hated me, as the "evil cult member"; she, of course, was absolutely innocent--she had been pregnant at 17 and gave it away, and had aborted one of ours. I raised the one she was pregnant with at 19.
We supposedly had mutually forgiven one another--she lied. I went on with the Lord, after a suicide attempt.
My 2nd ex:
1. brought an $86,000 IRS debt from ununpaid capital gains tax into the marriage withtout warning me. We bankrupted to get rid of the debt; thankfully.
2. Brought an unrepented bi-sexual attraction to women into the marriage, and admitted it,
3. Brought a phony "Walk to Emmaus" so-called accountability relationship with other women into our lives (just hers, really), and refused to relate to me spiritually at all, at our church--the program did NOT require repentance and a salvation experience
4. had an addiction to alcohol which had her drinking 60 liters of wine a month for the last ten years of our 13-year relationship,
5. Brought her needle-speed-junkie 40-year old daughter and pusher grandson to our house to live, just before kicking me out,
6. Screwed her boss in the first year of our marriage--I gave her "time to repent", but she never did--I got played for a complete fool.
7. broke every single one of her wedding vows, while I kept them, even with the severe Type I Bipolar Disorder, which caused me to try to kill mtself. Twice. The last time was THE last time--I am stable, now.
Do I WANT to re-marry? Probably not.
Do I think God would LET me? Probably so; both exes cheated on me, and I have never actually been loved BACK! ;-)
My first ex has suffered breast cancer, and has really been humbled. I can see maybe with her--she and her family were prety horrible; though. I would probably rather wait till she died, as cold as that might sound--self-preservation does kick in all by itself, sometimes; though!
OT2
OT2