In Reply to: Re: What long time exer said is good advice posted by CB on March 23, 2010 at 20:35:23:
Thank you again! Things have changed drastically in the time since i last posted, she is now living with me full time, which while financially taxing, i think is good, i have set some small boundaries, such as her helping around the house and doing her washing, general rules. i was just about to get on line and find someone to see myself, so i can help her, she was pushed into studying as soon as she arrived, we talked about this last night, as i can see she's struggling, my ex's family had also pushed her to get a job straight away, it's only been 8 wks! i let her know when she's ready i'll help her in that area, she's still coming to terms with grief of losing her family, and having changed homes twice since! We're all adjusting as the kids and i moved into our new (tiny)place at the exact time she arrived here, so it's a journey. She has been out a few times, and again tomorrow night with all of my kids and a friend of my son who asked her out, my rule is she isn't to go out with a boy unless my son is with them, that was cool, even cooler,my son barely drinks and his friend doesn't at all, but my concern is my son's friend is paying everything for her, i've talked to him about it, and to his mother, he's here everynight, not only for her, but it's a draw card, so i need to talk with her about responsibility in dealing with male attention, this kid is so sweet, at 23 he's a rare find! Again thank you blessings to you xx