In Reply to: Re: some reply posted by Farmer on March 21, 2010 at 13:33:24:
sorry it's taken so long to reply, i've been flat out working! firstly thank you for your replies, it helps to know that someone knows what's happening.xxx My ex's family is simply like that, very nuclear, their family unit is all that matters. that's it. it's the too hard basket to deal with this beautiful, wounded woman. the other siblings are angry because of the cost, and i think the decisions that were made 27 yrs ago by her parents to live this lifestyle, without thought to the fact that any of the kids may choose to leave, and who'd support them. she's expressed her grief over her mother, and explained the second wife situation to me, needing me to know, so she can share stories and pics, one of her sisters has been sent away for six months, so i'm assuming this is to reform her, she was caught out. she has two sisters wishing to leave and a brother, but the sister who has been sent away also has expressed desire to ff, which she tells me isn't mandatory, and her parents don't want her to go down this road, and that life really had changed in the family since we last heard. I try to listen while giving her chores to help around the place, my kids are still adjusting, as she's living here full time. her gran told her when she dropped her off that she'd been here 3 months it was time to get a job and get on with it!! i couldn't believe it, i could see in her face that she felt like a burden, so i'm simply trying to help her feel like part of my little family, and give her time, she's able to face book one of her sisters, and msgd her 2 of her brothers the other night, so that's helpful, it will be a journey, thanx for your easter blessings, we were away with my youngest swimming at the national championships in sydney, and i don't think i've been back on since, sorry it's such a long msg, hope you and your family are blessed and living your bliss xxx