In Reply to: not an answer yet posted by porceleindoll on August 10, 2003 at 17:13:21:
Porcelain Doll, I hear you loud and clear. My daughter just turned 27 and although she is not bitter towards me any more and has come a long way, she feels exactly the same way you do so that's why I understand what you feel. But I know you will appreciate this so I'll tell you: I was so thrilled to get a birthday card from her yesterday along with a picture of her and her fiance. She wrote me the most loving message and it just made me cry. She has been out of the family since she was 18 and the family was such a horrible experience for her that it has taken a long, long time for her to be able to love me. But she does now. I think it's a small miracle. The other thing that was so wonderful was that she was always very jealous of my 21 year old who had a completely normal childhood and is now at Wheaton College and is just a happy well balanced person. This summer, my oldest was living in Boulder Colorado and this 21 year old went to stay in Denver with my sister and my oldest went through some difficult stuff and the 21 year old was there to just love her and comfort her. One night, she just held her all night long while she cried and the two of them really bonded and they love each other now. Isn't that something? I was so glad to hear that. Healing is wonderful but goodness it comes slowly.
I'm going to really pray about an answer for you and if I get one, I'll be sure and give it to you.