In Reply to: thanks... posted by Greg on June 22, 2005 at 16:52:04:
Sorry, Greg, if I haven't really followed all the
posts here...but from the moment you posted the letter, you thought of sending her, I didn't feel much peace about it.I can understand, that you want clarity & you deserve it.But how would she feel, if she ever found out, that you discuss
such sensitive matters on a chatboard.I simply would invite her out for a "kosher" (in her mind)
dinner & ask her all you need to know.I think, whatever your relationship is or is not, deserves
such privacy.If you honour her with such a "good
set up", let's see if she meets you there or half way, cause certainly you're are puzzled &
a clarification should be worth such little investment, which many woman don't turn down.
What is more to your bewilderment, I can may be
pacify you: not all the Christians I know, witness very much, rather too little.Sure it's a bit odd, that she doesn't talk at all about Jesus.That would leave the other possibility, that she doesn't know much about Jesus as our Saviour...but that she got a faith in God & the Bible instilled is obvious...however without knowing Jesus as a Saviour the Bible is a book with seven seals or more...
But I'd say for any believer it's sure hard to get involved-from the point of marriage- with an
unbeliever...that is simply scriptural advise, which she probably knows about...may be she waits on a certain "awakening" on your side...although the main witnessing should come from her...
Whatever...but I'd certainly advise in all such situations-unless you meet a true prophet ; ) -
where it's not clear, what someone's motives & goals are, to simply come straightforward and
declare: Look, I am very concerned to get exploited & used & only hooked for something I might not want, because you are shrouding all of it under too little information to be really comfortable about it.So what exactly is your goal & what are your attitude & feelings for me like...
And regarding that "odd sect", why not simply asking (again???) for their name, telling her, that you already know quite a bit about the various denominations...you just want the right drawer, with the right label...she shouldn't refuse that & once you have the r e a l name, you can study that up, instead of guessing around!