In Reply to: Re: Getting her to tell the truth posted by Greg on June 25, 2005 at 16:31:58:
Greg, wanting most of all the truth...that's very laudible...& I have the feeling, that you respect the truth in a better way than her...it seems, her responsibility & allegiance is more towards the group than to outsiders, who could be potential foes, & the group has to be guarded against that...understandable.
I don't know how far you went in your intimacies,
but I know from experience, that when too early involved on that level with each other, it can really shroud the perception, cause much concern
goes for the feeding of those desires.They are in competition with the desires for clear thinking & good decisions.
Like others said here, if she doesn't - too soon - honour your desire for truth, then she is
probably not the right contact anyway.The same is, when you ask someone you really care for, "where do you work, where do you live" etc...doesn't that merit a good, truthful answer?
On the other hand, what about going to the "lions
den"...their house?Does that give you a bad feeling? I mean, if I cared lot's for a person, I 'd be willing to risk something, to get to know that person better or to help that person.
At the same time not to get overly involved, as to get sucked in.I guess, that'd be my way of operating...
In any case, although you desire the truth...she
is not obliged to tell you, what she knows, but
in that case I'd certainly drop her.Of course, if she's not too strong herself, she always needs to counsel with others, in order not to betray "her first love"...so, may be you never
meet "her", how she really is, but someone, who's
a bit under remote control or on "pause"...
Ultimately...Jesus is the truth...according to the Bible...I learned, that He's more reliable than people...people have their weaknesses...which we can pardon, of course, but at times, it's so good, to know someone, who doesn't disappoint you...people did that countless times to me & I for sure to others.