In Reply to: Requesting assistance posted by Laura on May 10, 2006 at 20:52:06:
Hi Laura, you remind me of my situation after I left my ex and TF. He made it real clear to me: you left TF and me and therefore I am not responsible anymore. He came 2 or 3 times to visit the youngest ones, at that time they were around 5 and 7 ,and after that no more "visits". Especially my youngest son was very fond of his dad and had kept asking why he doesn´t send him birthday cards or presents for christsmas. All this time I found excuses for "dad" until my son told me : my dad is an asshole, if he doesn´t care for me then he is not my daddy anymore", his own words and his own decision. It was hard for me not to let my emotions get away with me but I handled it good. My son had made this decicion himself and he had asked no more for his "dad". Maybe you feel bad. But your new husband seems to do a good job as you say, or not? Why not let their "daddies" in or out of TF stay where they are: away ? It worked very well for all my kids, eight, and myself. We´re doing great and are having good time being ourselves and do what we want and can.