Posted by Farmer on November 18, 2010 at 01:06:51
In Reply to: Re: Vivaah .....For those of us who believe in real love posted by Aunty T on November 17, 2010 at 21:27:13:
I am going through quite some trying times myself...but it's very touching the way you want to
help..I think you and who else lives with you in the kernel of your family should decide what you endure and what you can't...absolutely...I can't take if someone lies to me e.g. it shatters my confidence in him/her..calling names being abusive either...or exploiting ones time and goodness without end....the point is, what is too much and what would you do then...may be she senses that...
You're desperate, because your love seems to be taken for granted...that's bad style ...manners...faith on her part...how much can you endure...
You should explain to her...it's loving the neighbour as yourself...that means you can love yourself...protect yourself from being abused...turning the cheek countless times is not the core biblical counsel IMO...it also says to hide from trouble in Proverbs...
Ultimately she is a creation of God and "His problem"...you can't in any way love more than Him or Christ...impossible...so it's good to know one's limitations...I know I have mine and intend to survive some more time...without some exploiting my good intentions.
If she says...she didn't get exploited/abused by TFI...take her by that statement...why not..not everyone was sexually abused...but in some other way in sectarian surroundings...
Love is also correction and mind you...I don't love it, when I receive His...nor am I sure...how much "He likes His job" which He needs to do...since we are all so far from perfect.
Show her, how it's wrong from the Gospel to blame others for the own mistakes...that's what "leads to Christianity" ultimately...to realise what rotten sinners we all are...all not necessarily in the same area and manner.
Helping in the house which received her in...is even standard TFI-policy...she might have been "sorted out" exactly for that problem...only that TFI itself is not blameless either...but produced one problem after the other...only some enduring all that doldrum...by dwelling on scriptures about "killing the flesh" etc...."easy counsel" on the side of TFI...and since ultimately no one is perfect...that's why you can endlessly preach here on earth to everybody(like Zerby does)...until HE comes back
Chances are...she was a problem in TFI to their standard and liking and she senses/knows, they are weird themselves...and you might have your problems here and there too...
Result...nobody's really happy...but for a change she should accept, that money gift after money gift will not really make her happy and content and I think you can't even fulfill her seemingly endless demands/wishes...hopes etc.
Some SGAs worked really very hard standing on their own after TF...without the help of any...the old movingon platform is full of such testimonies
May be you'll find some if you go to xfamily.org and then at the sidebar sources...documents or so..it leads you to the old movingon documents...
I pray for you