Posted by FH on September 24, 2012 at 13:44:30
In Reply to: Re: Question #3 posted by Born Identity on September 21, 2012 at 07:17:20:
BI
Thanks for writing.
As brief as possible and to the point here...and pls note, this is my opinion for whatever it is worth.
An abusive environment is abusive whether in TFI or anywhere else. And the definition of abuse must be identical or it is useless. This website is naturally dedicated to exers of TFI and the story around all of that, and it thus falls outside of 'curriculum' to talk of other abusive outfits here.
Pls again note, I have not touched on whether abuse was/is worse elsewhere than in TFI simply because that would be a useless project to embark on. Comparison is useless for the reasons mentioned and also because no amount comparison of abuse with other outfits will alleviate pain of TFI victims.
When I speak of abuse in other outfits I speak of enclaves within society, not in what we usually mean by society in general, although there are exceptions to that as well.
Exactly what do you think the following means:
"Same calibration standard everywhere, of course."
I just think it is very important to know whether or not we speak the same language.
If you wish you could also answer me on this: Why does some exers still now appear to be confused as to whether (what I prefer to call) the general sexual MO within TFI overall was helpful or not? (if this is a misperception, do say something here.
My point here is really not some of the apparently moderately successful polygamies (or threesomes) as the rest of the rather rampant and overwhelingly selfish sexual gratification that systematically occurred many places over decades. I have my own experiences with this. This was the second point in my previous comment.
Now although I know you only through what you wrote, you were born into it, you say, I still prefer to try to write you as a peer.
However I find little satisfaction in letting the nasty parts of my life dictate my present approach. That would add insult to injury, at my own invitation, which to me is something I can do without.
When did you leave, and after how long in?
Although there surely are many things to say I will leave it here. Hope to hear from you on this, if you wish.