Another Cosmetic Apology?
written and compiled by WC
As a condition for winning custody, The Family acknowledged, albeit quietly, wrong-doing on Berg's part for literature which endorsed adult-child sex. The Family's leaders admitted Berg's responsibility for harm done to children. In his apology to the Judge, Peter Amsterdam (Kelly) stated:
"We acknowledge that it was wrong to proclaim a teaching of sexual liberty (i.e., in 1976 and 1978) without establishing without establishing clear rules to ensure that sexual contact did not take place between adults and children. Further, in 1980 Father David's statements in his discourse entitled "The Devil Hates Sex" opened the door for sexual behavior between adults and minors, such sanctioning being a direct cause of later abusive behavior by some Family members at that time. In addition, we also acknowledge with regret that more specific and concrete restraints were not introduced earlier, and that father David should have done so immediately upon receiving indications that problems were beginning to develop.
"The extension of the 'Law of Love' to sexual matters was a distinct contribution of Father David's to the Family, and we accept and acknowledge that he bears responsibility for what arose as a result of it."
"16. With 20/20 hindsight we can look back and see that it would have been better to explain things more clearly. We should have anticipated potential problems and put in more stringent rules to keep them from happening, including prohibitions on all adult/minor sexual contact. By not having such restrictions in place, some people were able to act in ways that were harmful to others.
"17. Because of the insight Dad gave into the Scriptures which granted us a great deal of sexual freedom, without clearly stated explicit restrictions that prohibited all sexual activity between adults and minors, it resulted in actions that caused harm to some children. He must therefore bear responsibility for the harm. Today it's easy to see that it was wrong not to put explicit restrictions in place earlier, but Dad didn't see the need for such explicit rules when he first introduced sexual freedoms.
"GOD MADE THEM TO EARNESTLY & PASSIONATELY DESIRE SEX, BECAUSE HE MADE THEM TO HAVE CHILDREN AT THAT AGE! He wanted them to have children! He expected their parents to have trained them so well that by the time they are grown that big & are that many years old, that they are fully responsible adults, able to do an adult's job & take an adult's responsibility & seriously do hard work, the hard work of earning a living & taking care of a family & producing children & taking care of the kids! --Right? But oh boy, the system's not set up like that! They want to keep the kids virtually all of their lives to where they never let them out of the house. Selfish parents want to keep them there selfishly all their lives!
In its defense, The Family used the time frame of 1985/86 for the official cessation of sex with minors. This can easily be challenged by ex-members who allege that as late as spring 1987, BAR publications (Burn after Reading) called for an end to sexual relations between adults and children/adolescents. The puzzling request was explained as being due to the "system" having a problem with it, not because the teachings were inherently wrong in any way. In fact, several sources witnessed sexual abuse of children after that date, and they will also testify that some sexual offenders were not excommunicated nor handed over to authorities.
Karen Zerby, a.k.a. Maria wrote in Summit Jewels 93 that The Family still does not believe that Adult-Child sex is intrinsically wrong:
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