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a reply to texas ray

Posted by porceleindoll on June 08, 2002 at 06:36:45:

Hi Ray, I just came across a question you asked me about the HCS in regards to if someone wanted to leave were they free to walk out the door or were they physically detained or was it emotional and spiritual pressure.

As far as I can remember no one was actually physically detained.

But yes, it was definitely a spiritual and emotional pressure, counselling, prayer, word time, isolation time to think about your decision. For my sister, she was isolated when she announced her intentions in order to not infect the rest of the group and esp. my younger sister who was living with her (they are now living together and going to school together), and her best friend at the time (who also eventually left, ha ha).

To be fair though, it wasn't handled the same in every place. I was living in Greenfields in Tokyo at the same time, which had been the Japan Music Unit until they moved to the HCS, and my sister's other best friend who had planned this exodus together with her, they decided to do it at the same time, was treated differently by the leadership there, and not put down or made to feel badly about it. It was taken quite well, though of course that was that overall sadness that another one was "leaving".

One thing my sister at the HCS was very upset about was that they announced her decision to the whole home while she was still there, when she had specifically asked that they don't announce it until she had left, and they had said she would. It left a scar on her heart and a bitterness toward the group.

On another point as well, there were individuals who were very snooty toward my sister and the other girls who left with her or at the same time. The only work these girls could get that would pay for the high price of living in Tokyo since their parents were in the group and couldn't or wouldn't take care of their expenses which a parent should be doing, they all got jobs working in the hostessing business. It means you work at a bar and entertain the men who come there by serving their drinks and holding conversations with them. The girls were accused of becoming prostitutes, even to their faces in some cases, by present adult members, when they would visit their parents' homes comments were made to them which insinuated that they were completely out of it, things like that.

To say the least, I have a few angry feelings toward some present members who have displayed extreme self righteousness toward the product of their decisions.