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In Reply to: Re: A horrific Bible story! Where is our sense of outrage? posted by One of the FAR too many on July 16, 2002 at 12:11:52:
To one of the Far too many:
I TOTALLY agree with you. The post was strongly provocative and sarcastic toward an attitude present in some exmembers that I consider hypocritical. I was poking at that bubble of denial.
I would also like to point out to you that I did not benefit from THAT system either. Not at all. I suffered under that system. I abhorred that system. I was molested from men in their 30's since I was 15. I had no adolescence because in that system you could not be an adolescent. So I totally agree with you and invite you to try to read between the lines and to understand why I wrote that.
As far as saying 'you chose to join' I think that is very simplistic and reductive in many ways. There are individual cases and individual circumstances and those count. You cannot lump everybody in the same bunch. There are people that came from homes where they were severely abused and were desperate to find a family and were themselves little more than children. They were conned into the we love you and this is your family approach.
They were raped and made to have children and fell into a place where getting out was hard once all contacts with the outside was severed. They ended up having no place to go back to and scads of kids. If their family of origin was extremely abusive and non-existent they had nothing behind to start anew. I know very few if any SGA young women that have been able to get out with more than a few young children with no help from the outside. Do you know any? This is because it is objectively harder to get out when you have little ones who depend on you, and you are also scared to lose them.
Perhaps we could start a discussion on the not so fine line between so-called SGA's and so-called FGA's because that line in a few cases is not so clear and neat. I respect and honor your suffering and your need and desire for justice. I only suggest you think about the possibility of respecting and honoring mine as well.
