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pardon me for butting in

Posted by Acheick on July 17, 2002 at 14:13:35:

In Reply to: Re: A few words on outrage posted by One of the far too many on July 17, 2002 at 13:19:09:

hope you don't mind. I really enjoyed reading your post. I just want to encourage you that we all have those buttons so we definitely understand how they can get pushed. I don't think anyone should be offended because you have been hurt just as you say in a more sinister way than we were, even though we suffered, it's not the same. I think if you talk to any exmember they will tell you they are sorry they joined and stayed in for as long as they did and didn't get out sooner. We all have pretty sore bottoms from kicking ourselves. Of course, there are different stories for each person, depending on when they left, what happened to them, etc., etc. You can't really lump everyone together. Gosh, some exmembers see nothing but good about the F. - can you imagine???? So there are definitely different perspectives, as confusing as it is, it remains true.

I'm glad though that you brought that up cause it helps me to see things through your eyes. I'm with you, I wish there was more outrage, too, and don't understand why there isn't. My concern is for the children and what they went through for no fault of their own. Not to mention the children being born everyday in this group.

In my own case, I managed to "escape" when my own children were still pretty small although the oldest was 15. Still, they were spared a lot of harm than what I've seen and heard of others and I don't know why. But after I left I did everything in my power to give them a normal life as much as possible and I think it helped. The oldest keeps going back to his "other" family to try and help his other brothers and sisters from his dad's second marriage. I feel for him, he puts his own life on hold for them and it's not his fault - so, I totally understand where you are coming from.