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Then why not have 20 children?

Posted by Acheick on August 20, 2002 at 08:06:57:

In Reply to: life is still life IMO posted by lydia on August 19, 2002 at 21:11:37:

So what are you saying? Overpopulate to take over other people's lands? Not a good reason. I'm not saying materialism makes people happy - where did you get that idea? I'm talking about having enough to put food on the table and clothes on your kids backs. Maybe some people can take these kind of challenges and come out with heart-warming stories that everyone is expected to abide by - i.e., let's all sing the Glad song now with Pollyanna. But for a lot of people, the hardships can take a toll on them and the children that is too much to bear. Statistics show that poverty is not a good thing.

Gee, you and I could have kept having kids - with that idea, why should we stop at 9, I'm sure I could have had 14 or more if I hadn't had my tubes tied. When does a person stop? How does one make that decision? I had 9 because I was afraid to use birth control thinking I was robbing someone of a life, that's not a good reason. I would have much prefered to stop at 4 or 5 at the most. After that, I was very unhappy. What a way to raise a family. Then I had to deal with the children having a stepfather and nothing really working out right. I'm glad it has for you, but that's not the same for everyone. Yes, we are a happy family in spite of what we have gone through and I get lots and lots of compliments on what wonderful children I have. This is not what I'm saying. The hardship I had to face, however, sent me through years of depression that I barely made it out of. I would have much rather had less to deal with. I know I would have been a lot happier.