In Reply to: Re: I disagree with much of his assessment posted by goth88 on November 22, 2002 at 20:23:46:
This psychologist's assessment of the totality of the mind control in the fam is exactly the same as my therapist's, something I struggled with for the first few months of my therapy. I couldn't accept that I had no responsibility, that I was completely helpless. Coming to grips with my own innocence is a heck of a lot harder to do than blaming myself for all the wrong I've done. Realizing that we as adults were virtually held captive, mind, body and soul was completely devastating for me because I couldn't accept that I was indeed powerless. Total bondage. Yet if you look at the extent of my "brain-deadness" which was directly proportional to my level of obedience (yes I tried to use only 3 sheets of toilet paper), AS SEEN BY AN OBJECTIVE THIRD PARTY, A PRO AT THAT WHO IS ALSO A CULT SURVIVOR, then it makes absolute sense. It is a hard saying especially if it's the first time you hear it. But this particular truth works for me. I am at peace with this issue and that's the whole point of healing. Yes I agree with Goth that on this one we should agree to disagree and let everyone come to terms with it on his own pace.