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How do we measure guilt and blame

Posted by Jane on January 22, 2003 at 15:42:50

In Reply to: Re: How do we measure guilt and blame posted by goth88 on January 22, 2003 at 15:01:16:

Goth, somebody on this board mentioned that you left before things got intense with child abuse. Perhaps that is why you don't feel you should shoulder the collective guilt. I would tend to agree with you that you do not have the responsibility of those who stayed if indeed you left before the child abuse was made scripture in the Davidito book and other pubs (assuming you left no children of yours behind, etc.).

Your comparatively early departure, if that is the case, would also explain why in a previous comment you seemed to agree with a therapist who said we "SGs" are uppity because, as youth, we were glorified in the group. Somebody sensitive, as you seem to be, would not have that opinion if they had been around to see what life was actually like for many of us after the TTCs and such!

You may have better luck convincing SGs (I say this since you seem to hold dear to your heart the goal that we should see ourselves as equal victims with the FGs) if you nuance your claims to allow for these differences. Believe me, you don't want to be in the same category as some people who stayed around for the things I alluded to!