In Reply to: health check-ups after the family.... posted by health concerns on January 27, 2003 at 15:49:15:
My experiences with health care after leaving the family were not good. I was given a difficult time at the health dept about why I had never used birth control and why my kids did not have all the vaccinations. The nurse was so rude and judgmental that I did not go back there again after the first visit. Her actual words to me were, "You missionary types are all alike. You come in here with a ton of kids who have never even had their shots and you don't take birth control. I've seen it over and over." That was INAPPROPRIATE - even if she thought it, she should never have said it. If someone talks to you that way, don't be a doormat like I was - speak up!
That is not the norm! I am an RN now, and if I was treated that way knowing what I know now, I would have raised the roof. So if any of you experience healthcare people with an "attitude" - you need to have an attitude right back. Tell them their conduct is not very professional and ask to see someone else. It is your right! You do not have to see someone who is rude or makes you feel bad. Nurses are supposed to be nonjudgmental, and if you come across one with a bad attitude, you have the right to refuse to be seen by that person. Same thing goes for the doctor. They are not God - that is an old image. Some of them can use a few lessons in bedside manner or simple courtesy. One of the most difficult things I have had to learn to do since leaving the Family is speak up for myself!