In Reply to: Re: More on the he said, she said issue posted by MG on March 06, 2003 at 01:29:12:
Hi MG. I agree with your post and believe that we were all victims with the exception of some with sociopathic tendencies who were probably led into the fam. via their genitals in the first place. Your comments don't at all strike me as sociopathic. And that was the across-the-board standard for men and women. I met women in the fam that were very harsh towards me as well regarding attempts to thrust their partners on me to seek someone else. I believe that most of us did not know what beds we would be lying in when we joined. And I do believe we were, for the majority, vulnerable and seeking something to fill a void in us. So I would be no one who could cast stones at another exer unless their behavior was the same after the family and they didn't want any help to change it.
I would like to see healing all around, and the idea of chat groups with peers could be a helpful start. Why don't you suggest a men's chat day and hr, and see when others could come. Even just 2 people showing up would be potentially helpful.
Another thing you might want to do is post on Find a Friend over at lolo's board and mention the fam. name of the woman and a short message. Someone might know where she is, or one day she may check the site and find a connection to you?
Thanks for your posts, I appreciate your candidness.