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In Reply to: Re: How's your sex life? posted by jewlz on July 20, 2003 at 05:55:56:
Hi Jewlz,
I understand your suspicions. I'm just trying to put together some information and research about the sexual aspects of TF to write an article. TF is/was known as a sex cult, and left in its wake thousands of damaged souls. I too was affected by the sexual aspects of TF, and I've had to do some rethinking about my own sexual attitudes since leaving. Rather than assume everyone else has been affected in all the same ways I have, I'd like to hear it from as many ex-members as possible, what their realizations/reflections are on the subject. I am trying to determine/establish what patterns if any, resulted from exposure to the sexual environment of TF, and to show that TF did/does use sex as part of its recruitment (apart from the obvious--FFing) and as a hold on its members.
Maybe I could set you at ease by answering some of these questions myself:
(1) Are you and FG or born into TF?
FG
(2) How long have you been out?
Since 80s
(3) How has your attitude toward sex changed since leaving (if at all)?
For a while I believed in 3-somes.
For a while I believed the delusional law of lust/love doctrine. (I didn't think there was anything wrong with adultery if "it was done in love," but now I just stay out of judging anyone at all for whatever their involvements. I am clear that people have to make a decision to choose who theiy're going to be with and break up with their partner if they can't stay faithful)
I was more macho chauvinistic for a couple of years. These ideas wore off gradually.
(4) Did you consider your sex life healthy and normal while you were in TF?
Yes
(5) How do you view your sex life in TF now that you have left?
It was healthy, but in a very unnatural setting. That's what made it most unhealthy.
(6) What difficulties (if any) did you experience with what TF taught or enforced regarding sex?
Sharing my wife with strangers.
(7) What difficulties (if any) have you experienced since leaving as a result of what TF taught or enforced regarding sex.
Re-adjustment of my attitude. Confused sense of self worth.
(8) Was sex ever part of the motivation (be honest!) for your joining or staying in TF?
Yes
(9) Did you have any concerns that you would not be able to enjoy the sexual freedoms you had in TF if you left?
Yes
