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Re: Confidentiality

Posted by Donny on August 28, 2003 at 20:26:08

In Reply to: Re: Confidentiality posted by Sam to Donny on August 28, 2003 at 19:30:38:

Wow, where did that train of thought come from?Sam, I wasn't asking you to keep confidential things only for me like a personal favor or something, which as Juni pointed out below would be partial and unfair, but to rethink and revise your policy of confidentiality for everyone with whom you have contact. In other words, as a general policy. It's kind of ridiculous to say that if someone you've known for years had sexually abused a child you'd be tempted to cover it up, but if someone else did, you'd expose it.

What I was specifically getting at was this, and sorry I didn't spell it out clearer: but let's say in the past an SGA shared with you the details of someone who sexually abused them, and then asked you for their own sake (and to allow them to deal with it), for you to not spread it around publicly. I was concerned that your new sweeping policy (where you past promises were abrogated) would apply and nothing would be sacred any more. I think this would destroy all your credibility and isolate you completely even from those who had trusted you in the past.

I'm still not clear as to what your new policy means. Have you given thought to it and reconsidered? I mean, if someone tells you something and you Forget you promised confidentiality, that's bad enough but nowhere near as serious as remembering that you promised confidentiality and still breaching it. Do you see what I mean?