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Adoption by known or potential members of TF

Posted by Question on November 27, 2003 at 08:10:25

If someone were to ask for your informed opinion about (known or potential) members of TF adopting a child, what would you say?

As an ex-member seeing and knowing about the abuse that has taken place, I could automatically say that there are very strong grounds and lots of reasons for declining such an application. The reason I am asking, is so I can get help in articulating such an answer. I am interested in hearing from the FG, SG and never-G (never-was-member) perspective.

Of course, I realize that the answer differs if the potential adopting parents are 'known ' members or 'potential' (suspected) members of TF. If someone is suspected of being a member, it is difficult to prove they are not because of the way members blatantly lie about such things. This is tricky territory. They could actually be former members and very good parents, and we could be jeopardizing the welfare of a potential adoptee.

It is a sensitive situation, to be asked for such advice from an official agency which has the power to set a precedent and influence the outcome of all current and future applications in a whole region of the world. On one hand, I don't want to shirk the responsibility, just say "I'm not in a position to say," and deny them valuable information which might help protect potential adoptees from potential abuse by adoptive 'parents' in TF. On the other, we ex-members cannot assume we know at a distance, what is best for each child and each specific situation.

What would you say?