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Re: I was a loving, adoring parent (still am)

Posted by Blondie on November 30, 2003 at 10:43:45

In Reply to: I was a loving, adoring parent (still am) posted by Acheick on November 29, 2003 at 12:54:30:

I apologise if anything in my post was offensive. I'm sure you, and many here were (are) terrific parents. Yes, TF definitely would not be the ideal place for a child to be adopted into as things can change so quickly. The child in question though is from a 3rd world country. I don't know if the child would be better off left unadopted. The mortality rate in 3rd world orphanages is quite high, not to mention the child ending up in a prositution ring or worse.

I just don't like to trash all parents in TF quite so quickly. My experiences have made me more suspicious, not more trusting, and I would never have remained in a situation if I felt my children were at risk. My attitude is not a recent development either. I'm a good mom and, if anything, have always been over-protective. I was when I was in TF and leaving has not changed anything in that regard. My biggest "problem" with the group and kids today is what they (children) are taught ie. belief structure, values, fear of "the system" etc. and the fact that opportunites are so limited because Jesus was supposed to come back in '93 and is due back any second. TF still discourages higher education so when kids leave and want to go to college they really have to go it alone. That's not a crime. A lot of kids have to pay their own way. A lot of kids don't go at all. It's not what I want for my children though.

Yesterday I discussed this topic with my hubby over breakfast. He was leaning towards what most folks are saying here. :-) I understand that. Like I said earlier, it's a tough call but not my call to make.